Finally I Can See It Crystal Clear

What’s up party people?

“Getting angry at people for not dating you gives them another reason not to date you.”

I’m going to start this one off with a disclaimer; I’m not a catch. I’m that fish you catch that you forget after you catch a bigger one, I’m not one you hang on the mantelpiece, I’m one you mention when you want to talk about quantity over quality. I may be confident in myself, but swag is my own, my reputation is what other people think of me.

I have a lot of female friends, attractive female friends. Female friends who I cherish deeply and would probably chase after if I didn’t consider most of them family. So, due to the fact that many of them confide in me, I can’t help but notice the similarities in terms of stories that they choose to divulge to me. And one of them in particular has been increasing in number, the only difference when it comes to this specific story is that the people involved are different. The dialogue is the same, its like every romantic comedy ever made, instead of Ashton Kutcher and Katherine Heigl you get Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn.

It’s the story of rejecting a nice guy.

It will start off with them describing the guy as any combination of the following adjectives:

Nice.

Considerate.

Caring.

Funny.

She’ll mention some of the really sweet things he has done e.g. stay up late with her, compliment her when she was feeling down.

Also, the girl I’m listening to will never talk about his physical appearance. Ever.

That’s where I come in.

Generic female friend:…and yeah.

Isaac: So he’s not hot huh?

Generic female friend: *embarrassed laugh* yeah.

Look, I’m not saying that every nice guy ever is unattractive. I actually think we’re the most attractive dudes running around on the planet earth (Editor’s note: Did he say we? He hasn’t been nice since his name was Anthony). I’ve been that guy, I’ve heard about that guy, and I’ve supported that guy.

Let’s be real.

Everytime a girl has rejected me, it’s not just because they’re really busy, it’s not just because they’re really caught up in studying, it’s not just because it’s a rough time in their lives, it’s not just because they just got over someone they liked a couple of months ago.

It’s because I have bushier eyebrows than John Howard.

It’s because I’m skinnier than most runway models.

It’s because my ears look eerily similar to Piccolo’s.

It’s because I simply wasn’t what they wanted in a boyfriend. (Editor’s note: It could also be that you’re not that nice. Ah well).

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There is absolutely nothing wrong with girls or guys who think that looks are important. They might not be the most important factor when it comes to entering a relationship, but they matter. They matter because who you’re with represents you, and if you’re with someone that makes you doubt yourself, if you’re with someone that you’re embarrassed to be in public with, then it’s not going to work. Honestly, I was a better person back in my junior years of high school, but I didn’t get a girlfriend until I lost all my excess weight, let my hair grow out and get rid of this tooth I had that made me look like a vampire.

To some it may sound shallow, and I applaud everyone who can look past the exterior and simply appreciate what’s on the inside. But you can’t tell what someone’s personality is like when you walk past them on the street or see them on the train. Initial attraction is caused by what your senses immediately see.

To everyone that’s ever going to reject someone again.

Don’t lavish praise upon a person when you’re about to break their heart and crush their hopes.

Don’t.

Why would you do it? To numb the pain? To soften the blow?

Dude, they’re going to hurt regardless of what you say.

If they really are as good as you say, why won’t give you them a shot?

Tell them the truth, there are many ways to say I’m not attracted to you politely. Be honest, don’t shove bullsh*t down the throat of someone that cares about you. Be clear, be truthful, and if you’re sure, let them know that it will NEVER happen.

I know never’s a strong word, but do it for their sake. The faster you end their pursuit, the faster they can pursue someone else that hopefully has different taste to you.

You might not like bushy eyebrows, skinny physiques and big elephant-esque ears.

But I’ve dated girls before that didn’t mind those things.

And I’ll date more that don’t mind them either.

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To everyone that has been, or will be rejected. Feel what you’re feeling, remember how sh*t you feel, remember that someone can actually deem you not good enough to be with them. Let it marinate and fester inside your mind and heart.

Then picture the exact opposite.

You’ll feel amazing when someone can hold your hand in public and not think twice, you’ll feel incredible when they whisper that they love you, that feeling will warm even the clearest of minds and coldest of hearts. What you bring the table, though it might not be someone’s palette, keep in mind that there a tonne of cuisines in the world that are enjoyed by different groups of people.

You’re someone’s taste.

Just not for the bitch in question.

Until next time folks! Stay classy!

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